If you’ve been through something painful, I’m sure you want to forget it. You may have run into obstacles in this process and the reason largely boils down to this: the brain remembers.
Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk wrote in his quintessential work on trauma, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, “while we want to move beyond trauma, the part of our brain that is devoted to ensuring our survival (deep below our rational brain) is not very good at denial.”
Once you’ve been through a significant hurt, your brain continually anticipates the smallest indication of danger, fears you may once again get into a painful scenario, and therefore, desperately tries to shield you from this torment. A minor argument with your partner or a perceived slight from a friend, as some examples, are all a traumatized brain needs to activate into protection mode.
What happens to your traumatized brain is the following:
To summarize, trauma changes the brain, and therefore our emotions, thoughts, perceptions, social interactions, and beliefs in dramatic, and often profoundly negative, ways.
If it sounds like I’m describing you, I want you to know there’s absolutely hope for a significantly improved reality.
Here’s how we help the brain forget and to live a much happier, peaceful, and hopeful life:
I can help you understand the impact of past difficulty and work to live the life you deserve through a telehealth session through a HIPAA compliant video or phone session. Give me a call and we'll discuss how I can help. Call Jordan Zipkin, LMFT, at 561.214.4113.
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